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The Bachelorette Life: Self-Care

A modern bachelorette should value three things: her mind, body, and spirit. Taking great care of those three things not only brings improvement but can make you feel good and attractive to others. Attraction is an inside job first, and once you do the work, it’s amazing how others start to take notice. I’m always reading, writing, learning new skills, committing to a fitness routine, watching what I eat, and making sure I set aside quiet time with the Lord. Committing to those things on a regular basis isn’t easy but it feels good investing in me. No one will love me the way I do and no one will love you the way you love yourself. Self-care is critical these days, especially in a day and time where so many people, especially women, are putting their self-worth into people and things that will ultimately let them down or worse, not valuing themselves at all. If no one ever tells you, I’m telling you, that you have value. Even if you don’t recognize it, you do. We all do. This year I’ve been intentional about focusing on bettering myself, liking myself, and falling in love with myself. And each time I look in the mirror, pray, finish a workout, face a challenge, come up with a new writing idea, or celebrate a minor or major accomplishment, I fall more in like/love with myself in ways I didn’t imagine. The same can happen for you too. I’m cheering you on. You go, girl. And if you’re single, whether by choice, a breakup, separation, or divorce and especially if you’re a Christian woman navigating your singleness, perhaps you’ll find some inspiration in some of the content below: 


The bachelorette life, this summer, and of course God, have been very good to me. I’m the happiest I’ve been in a while and I can’t wait to share more of my journey navigating the bachelorette life with you all. Stay tuned… J

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