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Bachelorette Guide To Building Confidence

To me, nothing screams confidence like a group of beautiful women of different races, shapes, sizes, and faces, posing happily and confidently in their underwear.
That’s a world I don’t mind being a part of at all.
The word for today is confidence.
It’s important to have it and it’s important to build it. Without it, life can be challenging, hell, life can be challenging with it too. Some women may worry that if they're too confident they could come off as arrogant (which is not true) and some may worry that they’re doing too much (which also isn’t true).
You will always come off as “too much” or “arrogant” to people who probably don’t have much confidence in themselves. Especially those who feel the need to criticize you about yours. Regardless, you should be taking steps to continue building your confidence and to feel good about being you.
I think you’re amazing, just in case you didn’t know that already 😊 and I’m happy to see other women being as confident as can be. To continue b…
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I was stunned… but not at all offended.  
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