Making Waves

Ability, opportunity, and intent are three words I’ll never forget after taking my first concealed carry course. Learning about firearm safety, how to properly purchase and use a firearm, and obtaining my concealed carry license were goals I set for myself and accomplished at the end of last year. Although I felt completely outside my comfort zone, I knew taking these steps were important to me. Mainly because of the current state of our world and society in general. During the course with Concealed Coalition, our instructor began by stating that the world seems more hostile than ever. He shared how you could be an innocent person minding your own business and suddenly find yourself in a situation where a firearm is present or needed. When he asked, “What made you take this course?” I responded, “For protection.” The course was filled with men and women there for the same reason and others. We all learned about specific laws in place surrounding firearms, the steps to purchase them, ho...

I don’t wait for special occasions to do nice things for myself. I consistently find ways to romanticize my life on a regular basis. Whether it’s a candlelit evening, creating a floral arrangement, savoring a great glass of wine, taking my time with my skincare routine, or enjoying a quiet dinner on my deck, I make sure to honor myself and prioritize my well-being. A romanticized lifestyle is attainable and a great self-care practice. The best part is that you can choose to romanticize your life in ways that work best for you. If you’re not sure where to start, think about things you enjoy doing that make you feel good, and go from there. Be very good to yourself. Make yourself a priority this year and have fun with it. Happy New Year and happy romanticizing!

This past summer, my eat-pray-love journey led to a variety of different food places in the Hampton Roads area, and a few stops were made at a cute bakery called Paris Baguette. My level of excitement stepping into this spot was all kinds of extra. When I went to grab a tray and tongs to prepare for which treats I wanted, I circled around the pastries about three times before making a final decision. There were a ton of options – croissants, tarts, macarons, cakes, and more. Which meant I would definitely need more than one visit. If you’re in the Hampton Roads area and looking for a place to grab a sweet or savory treat, Paris Baguette is the place you need to be.

About a year ago, a thirty-something-year-old revealed to me that he didn’t want to marry his girlfriend. He explained how they traveled together, how much she turned him on, and that she was a single mother. He also described her as a non-ambitious woman. While he doesn’t have kids of his own and doesn’t want to start a family until he’s married, he made it clear that his girlfriend isn’t “the one.” When I asked him if he wanted to marry her, the room fell completely silent. Her child from a previous relationship is what makes him hesitant. He went on to share that he still doesn’t know what he wants and that he’s not into having a blended family. However, he’s dating a single mother who I imagine has no idea he feels this way. One of his married friends told him, “I know you’re sleeping with this girl and hanging out with her, but if you’re not going to marry her, you need to break up with her.” I even warned him that he may end up getting got if he’s not careful… but he doesn’t thin...

When I was a teenager, I remember writing a list of my greatest fears. One of the things I listed was death. Looking back, it was an interesting item to list because inevitably, death is something each of us will face at some point in our lives. Even though it’s no longer a fear of mine, I understand why and how it’s not a comfortable thing for everyone to navigate. But regardless, this past summer I completed a detailed will. I signed it, had witnesses sign it, and got it notarized. As I was getting everything done, one of the witnesses looked at me and said, “You know, it’s just that you’re so young…” I’ve learned that death doesn’t care how young or how old you are. You can be five, fifteen, thirty, or fifty, and it’s still something that happens. Completing my will wasn’t scary. It gave me peace of mind having documentation in place stating my detailed directives and requests. A year ago, I had one of my kidneys removed. It was a surgery that came with risks that were presented cle...

On a bright and beautiful day, I took a drive out to Hampton to meet a friend for breakfast at a spot I’ve never been to before called Mango Mangeaux. The vibrant colors, chill vibe, and friendly smiles that greeted me as I walked into this location felt special, and I couldn’t wait to explore the menu and great food options they had to offer. It also didn’t hurt having a kind, tall, and very fine waiter serving us too. A few drink options that immediately stood out to me were the Dorothy Dandridge and Harry Belafonte. I knew who these Black-iconic entertainers were but was surprised to see drinks named after them! I ordered the Dorothy Dandridge and noticed how it had similar ingredients to a traditional Shirley Temple. Our waiter explained that the drink originated in the Black community but was stolen and renamed. How interesting is that? I also ended up ordering the Sledge Skillet that came with delicious toast, crispy hash browns and bacon, scrambled eggs, delicious grits, and a s...