The Bachelorette Life: Bae Watch

I figured out where the beautiful men are. Turns out, they go to the gym, sporting events, concerts, the beach, maybe some bars and clubs (although I don't recommend the bar or club option for quality boyfriend material), and anywhere else you may happen to be where there are people. A few weeks back I had an unexpected bae watch spotting of my own that was a refreshing reminder of the joys of singleness. I was hitting the gym per usual when I spotted him. And to my surprise, I caught him staring at me when I was checking in. He was tall, tan, athletic, had effortless swag, was covered in tattoos, and he was friendly. Our eyes met for a hot minute and I smiled and thought, wow, he looks good. I should go talk to him. When I finished working out, he was still hanging out at the entrance and on my way out the door I looked at him, and simply said, "Hi." He'd been talking to some other people before I walked up and he paused when I passed through, said hi back, and kept looking my way. In that brief moment I also thought, man, I love being single. Although it was a brief encounter, I can always appreciate a good looking guy. Especially one who's available and kind (not to mention one that values staying fit too J) In the past when I'd spot someone attractive, I'd just freeze up, act really goofy, and not say a word. But this time I was chill. Next time I just need to make sure we swap names and maybe numbers afterward. Getting caught in the haze of good looks can throw anyone off. It happens. But if you're single and looking to mingle this summer, make sure you're in the best #baewatch spots. Being in the right place at the right time can put you face to face with others checking for someone as incredible as you. He wasn’t my first bae watch sighting and he won’t be the last. I’m sure there’ll be more to come. Did I mention I love the bachelorette life and redefining what life can be like for a single, Christian woman? I'm just getting warmed up.

The Day I Became A Kidney Donor

About a year ago, I had a dream my dad wanted to talk to our family about something serious. I wasn’t sure what he wanted to discuss, but I knew it was something I needed to prepare myself for. Around the time after I had this dream, I remember stopping by my parents place and sensing something was going on that they weren’t telling me. I tried to dismiss what I’d been feeling, but I couldn’t shake it. Something serious was happening. As I returned to my home after visiting them one day, I was in my kitchen washing dishes when a heaviness hit my heart like nothing I’d ever felt before. Something’s wrong with dad. That’s what that dream was about. God, what’s going on? As I continued washing dishes, I started crying and praying. Then in mid-spring, my dad held an unexpected family meeting that would change all our lives forever. He hesitated at first, and as his voice started cracking and he started crying, he said, “Well, I wanted to talk to ya’ll to tell you that I have kidney disea...

I’m Glad I’m Not Married

When I was about five years old, I was sitting in the backseat of my dad’s car when me, him, my older cousin (my aunt’s son), and my aunt (my dad’s sister) caught my aunt’s fiancé with another woman. My dad had been driving my aunt out to run some errands since she didn’t have a driver’s license or a car. When she spotted her man with another woman, she told my dad to pull the car over, got out of the car, and immediately addressed him. She wanted the keys back to her apartment and was done with him. The other woman she caught her fiancé with slapped him when she realized what was happening, and that was that. When my aunt returned to the car, she was clearly and understandably upset, and the ride back to her place was quiet. Although I was too young to fully grasp what was happening at the time, I knew it wasn’t good. And now, at 34 years old, I can’t imagine how much pain she was in. Her wedding had been planned and paid for – and she never made it down the aisle. My aunt was a beaut...

How To Respond To A Nasty Email

Technology has made many people bold, rude, and incredibly messy. Often to the point where some may hide behind words they’ve typed instead of verbally communicating a message they want to convey. Such can be the case when it comes to sending emails. Ah, emails. You know what they are. Electronic messages that can be quickly drafted, sent, and misinterpreted (because you can’t always interpret tones or emotions through them). Which is why it’s key to know how to respond to nasty emails if they should ever come your way – especially in the workplace. As a working professional, there have been plenty of times when a coworker or superior sent an email my way that was petty, mad disrespectful, and unprofessional. And before I learned how to properly utilize email etiquette, my first instinct would always be to clap back. I just felt the need to respond and to communicate that I wouldn’t allow anyone, no matter who they were, to disrespect me. And while I haven’t taken t...

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