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Sound Advice From The Seasoned

There’s always something to be learned when you listen. Whenever I get the chance to be in a room or space with successful adults who know more than I do and can teach me beneficial lessons I can apply to my own life, I take notes. I believe in receiving sound advice from the seasoned. Below, you’ll find some great words and lessons I’ve obtained from different adults and sources who’ve helped me on my journey. I hope you’ll find their advice as helpful as I have. 

 

·      Keep the receipts.

 

·      The better you are at what you do, the more you’ll be called upon. Question what kind of work you’re doing.

 

·      Slow down and learn all you can. You don’t get experience overnight.

 

·      Be patient. There will come a time when something opens up for you.

 

·      Be mindful about keeping people at bay who just want to be in your business. 

 

·      Pay attention and listen.

 

·      You don’t have to over disclose things about yourself.

 

·      Be the best you. What are you doing with what you’ve been given?

 

·      Respect leadership. 

 

·      Respect money, partnerships, and resources.

 

·      Respect the grind. It doesn’t happen overnight. 

 

·      Partner with someone wise.

 

·      Have authentic connections.

 

·      Don’t play house with the guy you’re in a relationship with.

 

·      Don’t go to college to find a husband. Get your degree, have your goals in place, and set yourself up for financial independence. 

 

·      Don’t spend a lot of money on weddings, baby showers, or gifts for those events. 

 

·      Having kids is not easy or a “baby shower.” Kids will change your life. 

 

·      Live in the moment, be present, and put your phone away. 

 

·      Lean on God. 

 

·      Be obedient to God.

 

·      Don’t compare yourself to others. 

 

·      Don’t compromise who you are. 

 

·      Don’t act entitled.

 

·      Stay grounded.

 

·      Everything happens in its season.


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