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It Was Just A Kiss

The hit BET series Boomerang is back, and I’m here for it. The show follows the lives of a group of close friends and rising young professionals navigating the world of friendship, careers, and their growing relationships. After watching the first season, I couldn’t wait to see how things continued to unfold with Simone and Bryson. If you’ve seen the show, then you already know last season ended with a little heartbreak after Bryson found out his girlfriend Simone went to dinner with her newly engaged ex-boyfriend for closure, mind you, Bryson said it was cool when Simone asked if it’d be okay if she got up with her ex. Well, after she did, the evening ended with Simone kissing her ex, lying about her whereabouts when Bryson checked in on her and finally confessing to what she’d done. Of course, this didn’t end well for her. Bryson was hurt, felt like he couldn’t trust her anymore, and he bounced. 

Now that we’re in season two, Bryson’s got a hotation situation going, friends are taking sides, and Simone is the odd girl out.

While I know there are levels to betrayals and cheating, I was surprised to see Bryson so dismissive, cold, and in his feelings over something as small as a kiss. It was just a kiss. Sure, I’d be upset and maybe a little hurt if someone I was involved with kissed someone else, was dishonest with me about it, and then confessed later, and while I’m not excusing Simone’s behavior, compared to what some guys and other girls do when they’re being shady, what Simone did wasn’t all that bad. She could have done a lot more. But she didn’t. Here’s where the double standard kicks in -- because Simone is a young woman, what she did is perceived as a major betrayal and she then becomes disposable and unforgiven, however, if the roles were reversed, Bryson would likely be quickly forgiven and then everyone would eventually move on and start talking about something else. 

I maintain that it was just a kiss. Nothing more. Nothing less. Only the meaning given to it.

Make no mistake, I don’t condone or excuse crossing lines and boundaries if you’re involved with someone or getting involved with someone you know is spoken for, but does Simone deserve to be mistreated and shunned? We all make mistakes. Bryson’s not perfect. Neither is Simone. And he has a right to be disappointed, but he also gave the okay for her to go to dinner with her ex in the first place. I wonder, in what world did he think agreeing to that would end well for him, Simone, or their relationship? 

Think about it. 
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