Bachelorette Guide To Turning 30

Fun fact: Jesus was about thirty years old when he began his public ministry – Luke 3:23

This particular fact and scripture reference personally helps me keep perspective when I have moments of frustration, insecurity, and impatience about the direction my life is going. 2 Samuel 5:4 also reads, “David (the young shepherd boy, giant slayer, and future king of Israel) was thirty years old when he began to reign.” While I’m actively working and pursuing my goals and dreams and have no aspirations to pursue a life of ministry or ascend a royal throne, I do have an understanding that some things obviously take time.

I also believe turning 30 is gonna be lit.

I’m looking forward to what this new decade has in store for me. Prayerfully, an abundance of great and exciting things, along with plenty of rich experiences too. I know I deserve them. When I think about different ups and downs I’ve pushed through, I know there have to be good things headed my way. A friendly acquaintance insists that in the next two to three years I’ll have a new book published, get married, and start having babies. Which honestly seems like a stretch, but you never know, right? Lately, I’ve been thinking and reflecting on how I’ve spent my twenties and navigated different changes, challenges, and growing pains that can come with being a twenty-something. And while approaching 30, I’ve been thinking a lot about how I want to become a better me heading into the next season of my life. I know it’ll take time, as we’re all works in progress, but I’m up for the task.

A lot of different things I worked for, prayed for and waited for didn’t happen like I hoped, which at different times has been discouraging and disappointing, but I still didn’t allow what didn’t happen or work out to stop me from continuing to pursue different goals and dreams I’ve held close. I’ve had some fun, exciting, and unforgettable times too, but there’s still a handful of different things I’m hoping to cross off my list soon. I’m not exactly where I want to be just yet, but there’s been progress. And for that, I’m grateful.

My Bachelorette Guide To... posts are usually filled with tips and suggestions to help other women, but if you're reading this and turning 30 this year, I hope you embrace it. I hope you'll be thankful that you made it through your twenties and that you get to see another birthday. I hope you choose to be "thirty, flirty, and thriving..." -- thank you 13 Going on 30 😊. And I hope that you have one of the most memorable and joyful decades yet. You deserve it.

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