Bachelorette Guide To An Amazing Galentine’s Day Weekend

Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, and for some, it’s just another day on the calendar. For others? It’s a chance to express their love to different loved ones in their life. But for bachelorettes there happens to be a very cool thing called Galentine’s Day. I look forward to this time of year because it’s fun to celebrate with different women in my life and to encourage other women, whether single or not, to do the same. But how might one have an amazing Galentine’s Day Weekend? I thought you’d never ask…

Get Dolled Up. Even if you’re heading out alone, get dolled up, put on something you look and feel amazing in, go the extra mile for yourself, and enjoy it. I highly recommend a nice LBD (little black dress). It’s a universally attractive look and you’ll feel so chic.

Go Out For An Amazing Dessert. Ever heard the saying that stressed is desserts spelled backwards? There’s no need to stress when you have a delicious dessert on deck! Go to one of your favorite restaurants (solo or with some cool friends) and order a dessert you’ve previously enjoyed or something new you’d like to try and let the sugary sweet treat of your choosing be something you enjoy guilt-free. Calories don’t count on Galentine’s Day… at least not in my book.

Celebrate All That You Are. If you’re single, throughout this week, I want you to write down five things you love about being you. Then celebrate yourself and all that you are. Avoid saying negative things about yourself or whining and complaining. You’re too fabulous for that. I hope you don’t just do this during this week, but that you will find different ways to celebrate and love yourself all year long.

Happy (Early) Galentine’s Day, bachelorettes! You are thought of, appreciated, and loved 😊💗

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