About Confronting Your Fears

Fear is a liar.

It’s false evidence appearing real. But it’s something that hinders a lot of people’s lives and causes them unwanted stress, pressure, and anxiety.

And I don’t like it one bit.

The thing about fear is that aside from the fact that it’s present at times, it’s something that can be moved through. Some things have scared me. Some things still do. And then there are other things that I’ve simply decided I’m not going to be afraid of anymore. Instead, I’ll move through them. I’ve moved through bullies that used to pick on me growing up. I’ve moved through insults and shade from internet trolls who have criticized my writing, I’ve moved through confrontations I was scared to have with certain family members, former friends, and different colleagues. And I’ve even moved through fears about different insecurities I’ve struggled with.

You have to confront your fears head-on and move through them, or else you’ll have a hard time getting through this life and its challenges.

Now, understand, there are some things you should legit have fears and reservations about. Mainly things like putting yourself or your life at risk by getting involved with unsafe people, places, or things that could cause harm to you or others, but ultimately, I don’t believe God wants any of us living in a state of fear. I believe He wants us at peace and for our spirits to be at ease. If there’s something or someone in your life you’re not confronting, and it’s put fear in you? Move through it. Those fears can’t hold you hostage anymore. This is your life. So start living it.

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