3 Ways To Recover From A Setback

You’re going to fail at different things in this life. It’s inevitable, but you’ll learn from those failures and hopefully understand what to do differently next time. A number of the ones you experience will also cause setbacks too, but you can recover from those as well.

There are areas I've failed in and recovered from too.

Something like failing a test can prompt you to buckle down and study harder. A failed project at work can show you what does and doesn’t work so you succeed with the next upcoming assignment. Overspending and getting in debt may prompt you to budget and exercise better self-control. I’ve found that failures and setbacks can be recovered from if you’re willing to change. 3 ways to recover from a setback?

Reflect. Whenever I’ve had a setback, made a dumb decision (and lived with the consequences), or failed at something, I reflect on what happened and ask myself, “What can I learn from this?” Reflecting prompts introspection, your role in the setbacks you’ve had, and how you can move forward. Some situations and circumstances will be out of your control but making decisions is a choice. You decide whether to go to school or not. You decide to follow instructions or choose to rebel. And you decide how to manage your finances. What kind of decisions are you making?

Strategize. A great strategy can be highly effective. When I was a broke college student, I maxed out a credit card my freshman year. And guess who paid for that choice? Me. My mom helped me strategize how to pay the card off and once I did, I learned a valuable lesson about money and delayed gratification. I learned to use cash, budget, and to assess the difference between wants and needs. What strategies can you implement in your own various setbacks?

Go Forward. It’s okay to be sad, angry, and disappointed when you face a setback of any kind, but don’t stay in those areas. You’ve got work to do. And you’re going to be okay. Don’t be deterred because you’ve made mistakes. I’ve made a lot of them and I’m still standing. God knew what mistakes you’d make before you even made them. Take things one step at a time and move forward. You’re going to be okay. You’ve got this.

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