Bachelorette Guide To...

Singleness can be amazing! I believe single women are some of the most incredible people on the planet. And it’s my heart’s desire to let all the other single bachelorettes out there know how important, valued, and appreciated they are. I know the upcoming holiday season can be challenging for some singles struggling with whatever season they happen to find themselves in, and I want any of ya’ll reading to know...

You don’t have to feel lonely this holiday season. You have permission to have fun.
You’re not obligated to see or be around anyone (family or any toxic friends included) who make you feel bad or uncomfortable or stressed.
You don’t need to use dating apps to meet guys. Don’t force things. Be pursued. And remember, great dates don’t always make for the best long-term partners or future spouses.
You don’t have to compromise or lower your standards.
You don’t have to engage guys you have zero interest in.
You don’t need to listen to unsolicited advice from meddling family members, friends, or anyone else.
You don’t need to feel ashamed, lonely, embarrassed, disappointed, or insecure about your singleness.

You can simply be who you are while you prep for where you’re going.

This is a time when you can deepen your relationship with God. You can stack and save and spend your money as you please. You can educate yourself. Earn a degree. And then another one if you want to. You can build a great career. You can switch up your career too if you’d like. You can donate some of your time to a good cause. You can start house hunting for your very own bachelorette pad. You can travel and see more of this world. You can focus on yourself completely without interference from a partner or parenting a child (for those of you who don’t have a child or children.) And you can decide what you want to do with your life. Make the most of this time. You are massively blessed.

I’ve got your back. I’m cheering you on. You matter. And when I refer to single women, I will often use the word “bachelorette” because it sounds fierce. It is fierce. You know ya’ll are fierce too, right? I wish every single woman an overflow of incredible and abundant blessings this holiday season and all the seasons to come. You absolutely deserve it.

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit – Romans 15:13

P.S. – I’m working on some new content especially for all you bachelorettes. I got ya’ll :)

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