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About Girl Code

A lot of women violate girl code all the time. Some do this knowingly, and others might be clueless about it. You would think not doing things like hooking up with someone who’s spoken for or dating a friend’s ex would be common sense, but because girl code’s becoming a common thing some heartless souls tend to violate, along with some other girl code infractions, I thought I’d drop a refresher course on what it means to honor girl code. Now, some of you might already know the unwritten rules about the code all us ladies should know, but for those of you who don’t? Keep reading…

Girl code is as follows. Thou shalt not: 

·     Date or flirt with a guy one of your friends has dated, hooked up with, or has a crush on. And if the guy initiates contact, it’s still your responsibility to do the right thing. 
·     Date, flirt, or hook up with a guy who’s already spoken for. Again, do the right thing. 
·     Withhold items such as tampons, hair ties, or breath mints for a fellow sister in need. Just be sure you’re returning the favor. 
·     Betray a fellow sister’s trust by sharing information or secrets that were shared in private.
·     Be a bystander when a fellow sister is being harassed by another sister or an uninvited male suitor. If things get too creepy or dangerous, get help. 
·     Let a fellow sister wander off with strange people (especially a strange guy) during a girls’ night out. Check in with each other. It’s also a good idea to check in with each other when one of you dates someone new, that way, someone knows who you’re with just in case something happens. 
·     Be passive when there’s an issue between or with other fellow sisters. Speak up and communicate. 
·     Abandon or ditch a fellow sister for a guy. Remember, sisters before misters. (Although, I believe this may be different for those of you who are married…) 
·     Fail to tell a fellow sister when she has something on her face or food in her teeth or any kind of wardrobe malfunction… you’d seriously want someone to tell you.
·     Shade, sabotage, bash, or trash another sister trying to progress. There’s enough room for all of us to succeed. Let’s support one another? 


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