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None of Your Business

I don’t get in other people’s business. I don’t have time to. Minding my own business keeps me occupied enough. Although we live in tell-all world with a lot of people who post all their business, drama, and announcements all over social media and apparently have free time in their lives to worry about and clock what other people are up to, I often wonder, why do people care about things that don’t concern them? Through a lot of trial and error, I learned when to shut my mouth and hold my peace. While I don’t mind allowing others to know me through my writing, and my aim is to be as honest and vulnerable as possible with it, during seasons when I was empty and going through trials, I used to foolishly make the mistake of talking too much with people who were as trustworthy as Judas and also vent on social media via status updates about private things that should’ve never gone public. When you’re a Christian and dealing with low points or having rough seasons, and even if you’re not a Christian, it’s wise to confide in a seasoned and spiritual advisor who can be trusted. And do I even have to remind you why venting on social media via status updates during challenging seasons in your life is unwise too? I sure hope not. That level of foolishness makes you look messy and immature and opens the doors for people to get into your business. No one can get in your business if you don’t announce and tell everything. When you’re reckless with fragile things they break. So why be careless with something as delicate as your own business? Doing so opens you up to vulnerable attacks that could’ve otherwise been avoided if mindfulness before sharing and thinking before speaking were considered first. I believe in being nice to everyone yet mindful to fit in with no one. What I mean by that is that while it’s okay to have friendly associations and genuine and kind conversation with different people you meet and encounter, it’s probably not wise to openly share certain details of your life with people who’ve not yet been properly screened, proven they can be trusted, and to no longer open up to people who’ve betrayed your trust. If someone wants you to know something, they'll share. If not, don't get in other people's business or be preoccupied with things that don't concern you. And if someone trusts confiding in you, don't betray that trust. Remember, what goes around comes around and you'll reap what you sow (Galatians 6:7). None of us is supposed to know everything or need to know everything. Be a bit of a mystery and keep certain details about your life to yourself. And when you’re going through challenging seasons, seek trusted godly counsel. Also, consider investing in journaling, and more importantly, talk to God. He’s more into what’s going on with you than anyone and you can tell Him everything. And get into the habit of minding your own business. You’ll be glad you did.






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