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The Casualties of Settling

Despite any low or limited expectations different people in my life had in mind for me, I’ve managed not to settle. Although I know many who’ve settled, I never will. I have family who’ve settled. Friends. Acquaintances. And more. My refusal to settle in any area of my life has certainly caused doubts, fears, frustrations, uneasiness, challenges, and has required heavy patience on my end, however, I can’t bring myself to grow comfortable with accepting less and be content with doing so. That’s not me and I’ll accept nothing less. Because even when people tell me I should do things like, settle for guys I’m not attracted to or even like because they say I’m “getting older” and that “the older you get the harder it’ll be to meet someone…”, or to do online dating because people don’t meet people in person anymore, or to live with my parents instead of getting my own bachelorette pad, or to not browse an open house because I can’t “afford” to be a homeowner, or stay put and not travel and see more of this world, or to not pursue an English degree and settle for an Associate’s degree because a four year B.A. would take too long to complete, or that my writing is not “ready” to be shared with the world, or that I should remain at one job for the long haul for stability instead of aiming towards my dreams, I’ve heard all these things and yet, I continue to have faith, hope, and substance for things that appear out of reach that remain in my heart and spirit. Hebrews 11:1 reads, “Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.” Sometimes it’s tough, difficult, and discouraging but I won’t be a causality of settling. No one should. Even if you have to work harder, wait longer, fight for what you want, make different arrangements, cut people out of your life -- even well-meaning ones that continue to be discouraging, make new friends, date new people, start over, and shuffle some things around, you should never be okay with settling. I can testify that God’s shown me big things that will happen in my life and I’m looking forward to collaborating with Him and proving so many people wrong in the process. Family. Friends. And anyone else who’s ever insisted I do something as ridiculous as settling. Unlike settlers, I have the courage to hold out for the best.  Do you? 

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