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So…You’re Graduating From College?

Around this time last year myself and a number of my peers were decked out in our caps and gowns completing one season of our lives and stepping into another. I can’t believe it’s already been about a year since that time. My journey through college wasn’t an easy one, but I did it – I earned my B.A. in English. My degree arrived in the mail about a month later. Holding it in my hands was nice, and for a long time, I thought it would complete me. I quickly learned how silly it was to think such a thing. It’s even stranger to hear different college students claim that they’ll feel “complete” with a degree. Know this – a college degree is just a piece to an enormous puzzle in this thing called life. It’s a major accomplishment, but I promise you’ll do bigger and better things in this life. Especially if you’re one of those people who intends to leave your mark on this world. I’m blessed to have a degree, but a degree only has the value people put on it. I know what some of you might be thinking. “Easy for her to say, she’s already got her degree.” And while I do have a B.A. in English that remains framed and on my wall, and while I’m also grateful, employed, and legit enjoy what I do for a living, I went through a roller coaster ride of challenges to complete my studies. Especially my senior year. It was a huge time of transition for me academically, spiritually, and emotionally. When I read through some old journal entries and go through different photos from that time, I still can’t believe I made it through that season. A lot can happen in a year. I don’t even feel like the girl I was a year ago and hardly relate to her much these days. After college and even during, everything changes. You do. The people around you do, and you learn to adapt and adjust as you, your circumstances, and everything connected to you changes. Life after college can and will teach you much more than anything you’d ever learn in a classroom or textbook. That’s a certainty you can count on. But you’ll be okay. I’m still navigating life after college myself, and so far, things are okay. If you’re a senior graduating this year, I’m keeping you lifted in prayer and hope you take the time to celebrate. Enjoy yourself and have an incredible summer. Because after the party is over, the tides of change, uncertainty, heartbreak, disappointment, frustration, blessings, growth, and excitement will be waiting to greet you the moment you cross the stage, so grab your surfboard and get ready. The surf will have plenty of highs and lows. But ride the waves. You totally got this. Congratulations to each and every one of you. 

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