I don’t always respond to calls
or text messages immediately.
I’m not obsessed with having a
man in my life, getting married, or having kids.
I enjoy solitude and would rather
be alone or with a small group of people than a huge squad.
I’m bold and outspoken in my
faith as a Christian.
I enjoy saving money and don’t
like wasting or overspending it.
I’m into books, reading, and
watching movies. And enjoy those things much more than going out.
I’d rather say “no” to things I
have no interest in without guilt, apology, or an explanation. And I’m no
longer apologizing for any of these things. Sorry, I’m not sorry. Here’s why…
I don’t always respond to calls or text
messages immediately because… unplugging is peaceful
and necessary. A lot of people confide in me and come to me with their problems
on a regular basis. I don’t think a lot of people get how heavy that weighs on
me sometimes, which is why I stay away from my phone a lot. I’m one of those
rare millennials’ that isn’t addicted to my smart phone, and it often resides
in my purse or inside my nightstand. These days, people have far too many ways
to access each other and while I don’t mind technology, lending a helping hand,
or being a listening ear, protecting my peace is a priority. Plus, my time is
better spent being present and not glued to a glowing screen.
I’m not obsessed with having a man in my
life, getting married, or having kids. I’ve
been called cold because of this, but having a different outlook doesn’t make
me cold. I know my life and any woman’s life is much bigger than a man,
marriage, and having children. It’s not that I don’t want those things, but I
believe they’re often overly celebrated and that we as a society are failing if
we’re raising girls to place their value in being defined by relationship
status, oversharing, and overspending on frivolous weddings and gender reveals,
ultimately culturally conditioning them to believe that men, marriage, and
having children are a high measure of success. If I ever have a daughter (by
birth or adoption) one of the first things I intend for her to learn early is
that this world is bigger than having a man, marriage, or children, and that if
she chooses not to pursue those things, I will love and support her regardless.
I will never pressure or make her think that she has to choose those things or
that something’s wrong with her if she doesn’t. Before experiencing any of
those things, ideally, I’d like her, and any up and coming generations of young
ladies, to pursue God wholeheartedly and to be a whole woman who has lived her
own life first, while taking full advantage of the opportunity to pursue her
purpose, passions, an education, career, financial independence, and exploring
different cultures and travel opportunities.
I enjoy solitude and would rather be
alone or with a small group of people than a huge squad because… I hear God. My clarity is on point. And my intuition
is lit. I need time alone. I also prefer quality over quantity when it comes to
relationships and would rather spend my time with uplifting people than with
draining, demanding, or needy ones. Again, this all goes back to the importance
of protecting my peace.
I’m bold and outspoken in my faith as a Christian because… I love the
Lord! He gave me life and purpose. My life is not about me. It’s about allowing
Him to use me and any gifts He’s blessed and entrusted to me are ultimately to
be used for His glory. He’s my guy and I love that He’s readily available to me
24/7. Some people may get annoyed or offended by my beliefs, the scriptures I
share, the stories I write, and the testimonies I’m open with, but who cares?
If someone has a problem with any of those things, that’s not my problem. It’s
theirs.
I enjoy saving money and don’t like
wasting it or overspending. Mishandling
money is reckless and I aim to budget, save, and spend as wisely as possible.
Financial independence is a priority to me.
I’m into books, reading, and watching
movies. And enjoy
those things much more than going out. I enjoy getting lost in the world of a
great story or film, and these things are relaxing to me. Going out can get
expensive, and while I’ll treat myself every now and then, I prefer being
indoors (unless it involves the beach J)
I’d rather say “no” to things I have no
interest in without guilt, apology, or an explanation. I’m honestly still working on this. People don’t
like telling people no or being told no, but I’d rather be honest and say no to
something than silently resent someone or something by saying yes, when I’d
rather say no. Nobody wins if all parties involved fail to be upfront. Once
again, my peace is a protected priority. Which means, “no” will be a necessary
and complete sentence sometimes. Sorry, I’m not sorry.