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I’m Good

We would have been a cute couple but when I met his racist friend, I exited gracefully. And I’m good with that. I don’t need that stress in my life. I also didn’t want to have a conversation that went, “Hey, I think you’re great and I like you but your racist friend makes me very uncomfortable…” Passing on a guy who seemed cool at the moment was something I wrestled with, but life is too short to wrestle with that kind of uncertainty. Plus, I couldn’t ignore the confirmed evidence, reservations, and warnings from people who gave me a heads up. “I don’t know if you want to date someone white. Because even if he’s not racist, you know some of his family and friends might be.” I didn’t completely agree with that statement at first, but I started to wonder. Sometimes you have to cut your losses and move on. It’s odd and scary, but truthfully not at all surprising, that race is still an issue for some people. And while I’m still open to dating across all kinds of racial lines, I don’t want or need to complicate my life. The silver lining in all this was catching and cutting things early before anything got too serious. And just another sign that God has something else better in mind, so all is not lost. I’ll be just fine.



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