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Disconnect to Connect

On Friday’s I stay off social media to connect with God. I began doing this a few weeks ago and noticed that when I wasn't checking my phone or concerned with what anyone else was doing, God continually dropped things in my spirit and spoke to me in ways He's likely been waiting to do without the interference of social media in my life. God may be trying to get through to you too. Can you hear Him? I enjoy social media but I want all of my readers to know that while you’re scrolling through social media and see really great photos and different milestones in other peoples’ lives, understand there are always things happening that you cannot see. The people you think or perceive to have wonderful lives also have battles, challenges, and struggles that don’t always make it (and truthfully shouldn’t) to their social media accounts. The couple who are new homeowners could be struggling with their mortgage payments, the woman posting cute pictures of her newborn baby could be up all night, every night, trying to adjust to life with a baby who has a demanding eating and sleeping schedule, the recent college graduate could be anxious about finding employment in an economy that has little to no job openings in sight, the friend that just went on a vacation might be struggling financially, the co-worker who got a new promotion could have anxiety so intense they can barely sleep through the night, the couple that just got engaged might be questioning if they’re really in love or about to ruin their life, the girl who takes stunning photos may struggle with constant doubts and insecurities, the couple who takes cute selfies may fight and argue a lot and be on the verge of a split, and the person you think “has it all” may very well have every material item and opportunity you could imagine, but is so miserable, empty, and unhappy you’d never know they’re truly lonely and chasing the wind -- see Ecclesiastes 2:11. There’s always something happening behind closed doors that you cannot see. Consider limiting the amount of time you spend on social media and instead, spend that time with the Lord. Disconnect to Connect with Him. He’s worth it.  

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