I love being God’s woman. He
loves, challenges, and pushes me in ways like no one else. And I make it a priority to set aside quiet time for us.
For me, church doesn’t begin and end only on Sunday’s. I need God 24/7. Because
I’m His woman, I believe in being intentional about spending time together on a
regular basis. One of the things that bother me about some single Christian
women is that sometimes, they complain about singleness, pray to God for a
significant other, and envy other couples without recognizing the
opportunities and blessings singleness affords – specifically quality time with
God. If you can’t be faithful to God first, how and why would you expect Him to
bless and trust you with a significant other? Singleness may have its highs and lows, but you
have the freedom to spend as much
time with God as possible. And if you are single, don’t be in a hurry to change
your status too quickly. God’s not limited by age, timing, circumstances, or
what your family, friends, and society suggests you should be doing. Please
don’t let social media fool you. Don’t let pictures of couples, engagements,
weddings, babies, and those annoying gender reveals fool you, either. Gender
reveals. Ugh. I don’t believe there’s anything natural about them and I
certainly don’t believe God’s design was for us to share news like that with
the world. Within the circle of close family and friends? Sure. But all over
social media? No way. What happened to people just having baby showers? I mean,
no shade, but I think the gender reveal of your baby and sonograms are things
that should be private and not shared with the public. I’m not a fan of seeing
that kind of stuff on my social media and have no intention of ever jumping on
that bandwagon. And lately, I’ve been thinking -- if a significant other,
marriage, and having children is supposed to “complete” and “make me happy” or
so myself and many young and impressionable women, especially Christian women,
have been sold and told, then why do I meet so many people who have those things,
yet, are utterly unhappy, lonely, complain about their significant others,
finances, morning sickness, pregnancy weight, crying babies, changing diapers, and
how challenging their lives are? I’m not jaded and I’m not a hater, but perhaps
singleness is worth holding on to until God suggest something different. Being
able to spend time with Him is an honor. And He loves when we spend time with Him. He always makes time for each and every one of us, so, single or taken, why
not make time for Him too?
As you embark on your career, I want you to know some things and stay woke about what you’ll be up against. Please understand that no matter what, you have value, and you matter. Always remember that. As progressive as this world and different workplaces may seem, every workplace has a culture. You’ll be in different places where a lot of people who don’t look like you will be in the room. But know that you belong in those rooms too. Spend some time observing and studying those spaces and learn as much as you can. There will be people you work with who will make presumptions about your competence, education, and ability to fulfill your job duties. There will be more who will think less of you because of the color of your skin and try to disqualify you the moment you make an error, mistake, or ask questions about things you may not understand. This will all feel uncomfortable and you may get insecure, feel like you’re all by yourself, and think you don’t belong there, but ride it out...