Skip to main content

God’s Woman

I love being God’s woman. He loves, challenges, and pushes me in ways like no one else. And I make it a priority to set aside quiet time for us. For me, church doesn’t begin and end only on Sunday’s. I need God 24/7. Because I’m His woman, I believe in being intentional about spending time together on a regular basis. One of the things that bother me about some single Christian women is that sometimes, they complain about singleness, pray to God for a significant other, and envy other couples without recognizing the opportunities and blessings singleness affords – specifically quality time with God. If you can’t be faithful to God first, how and why would you expect Him to bless and trust you with a significant other?  Singleness may have its highs and lows, but you have the freedom to spend as much time with God as possible. And if you are single, don’t be in a hurry to change your status too quickly. God’s not limited by age, timing, circumstances, or what your family, friends, and society suggests you should be doing. Please don’t let social media fool you. Don’t let pictures of couples, engagements, weddings, babies, and those annoying gender reveals fool you, either. Gender reveals. Ugh. I don’t believe there’s anything natural about them and I certainly don’t believe God’s design was for us to share news like that with the world. Within the circle of close family and friends? Sure. But all over social media? No way. What happened to people just having baby showers? I mean, no shade, but I think the gender reveal of your baby and sonograms are things that should be private and not shared with the public. I’m not a fan of seeing that kind of stuff on my social media and have no intention of ever jumping on that bandwagon. And lately, I’ve been thinking -- if a significant other, marriage, and having children is supposed to “complete” and “make me happy” or so myself and many young and impressionable women, especially Christian women, have been sold and told, then why do I meet so many people who have those things, yet, are utterly unhappy, lonely, complain about their significant others, finances, morning sickness, pregnancy weight, crying babies, changing diapers, and how challenging their lives are? I’m not jaded and I’m not a hater, but perhaps singleness is worth holding on to until God suggest something different. Being able to spend time with Him is an honor. And He loves when we spend time with Him. He always makes time for each and every one of us, so, single or taken, why not make time for Him too?


Popular posts from this blog

The Day I Became A Kidney Donor

About a year ago, I had a dream my dad wanted to talk to our family about something serious. I wasn’t sure what he wanted to discuss, but I knew it was something I needed to prepare myself for. Around the time after I had this dream, I remember stopping by my parents place and sensing something was going on that they weren’t telling me. I tried to dismiss what I’d been feeling, but I couldn’t shake it. Something serious was happening. As I returned to my home after visiting them one day, I was in my kitchen washing dishes when a heaviness hit my heart like nothing I’d ever felt before. Something’s wrong with dad. That’s what that dream was about. God, what’s going on? As I continued washing dishes, I started crying and praying. Then in mid-spring, my dad held an unexpected family meeting that would change all our lives forever. He hesitated at first, and as his voice started cracking and he started crying, he said, “Well, I wanted to talk to ya’ll to tell you that I have kidney disea...

I’m Glad I’m Not Married

When I was about five years old, I was sitting in the backseat of my dad’s car when me, him, my older cousin (my aunt’s son), and my aunt (my dad’s sister) caught my aunt’s fiancé with another woman. My dad had been driving my aunt out to run some errands since she didn’t have a driver’s license or a car. When she spotted her man with another woman, she told my dad to pull the car over, got out of the car, and immediately addressed him. She wanted the keys back to her apartment and was done with him. The other woman she caught her fiancé with slapped him when she realized what was happening, and that was that. When my aunt returned to the car, she was clearly and understandably upset, and the ride back to her place was quiet. Although I was too young to fully grasp what was happening at the time, I knew it wasn’t good. And now, at 34 years old, I can’t imagine how much pain she was in. Her wedding had been planned and paid for – and she never made it down the aisle. My aunt was a beaut...

How To Respond To A Nasty Email

Technology has made many people bold, rude, and incredibly messy. Often to the point where some may hide behind words they’ve typed instead of verbally communicating a message they want to convey. Such can be the case when it comes to sending emails. Ah, emails. You know what they are. Electronic messages that can be quickly drafted, sent, and misinterpreted (because you can’t always interpret tones or emotions through them). Which is why it’s key to know how to respond to nasty emails if they should ever come your way – especially in the workplace.       As a working professional, there have been plenty of times when a coworker or superior sent an email my way that was petty, mad disrespectful, and unprofessional. And before I learned how to properly utilize email etiquette, my first instinct would always be to clap back. I just felt the need to respond and to communicate that I wouldn’t allow anyone, no matter who they were, to disrespect me. And while I haven’t taken t...