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How’s Your Heart?

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life – Proverbs 4:23 
I believe many women and men are reckless with their hearts. And it doesn’t always happen recklessly in the beginning. Often, people meet other people they think or perceive are great in the beginning, and without using discernment, allow their feelings to take over and let different people have access to their hearts, only to get them broken when a relationship (or what they mistake as a relationship) ends. I don’t like that. And as I reflect on Proverbs 4:23, I’m reminded of the importance of guarding the heart. Guarding your heart doesn’t make you paranoid or standoffish, it makes you smart. I don’t believe God wants us offering up our hearts to just any and everyone that comes along, yet many people still do. God wants to hold our hearts and He can fully be trusted. My prayer is that women and men will guard their hearts more carefully before pursuing and engaging in any relationships. Lord, please guard the hearts of your sons and daughters. I pray for all the men and women that are developing relationships, establishing new ones, healing from old ones, dating, courting, or in a season of growing more serious in their relationships with family or new friends. Please give us wisdom, insight, and clarity before we invest and dedicate our time to these relationships, and especially give us discernment before we share our hearts in these kinds of relationships. Thank you for your protection and unconditional love. In Jesus name I pray, amen. 
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