The thing about our married
counterparts is this: they have the husband and the 2.5 kids and the white
picket fence, but they don’t have what we singles have – a blank canvas. In a
sense, they don’t have a chance to color both inside and outside of their lives
and boldly embrace not knowing what comes next. In many ways, their lives are
decided. Settled. Complete. Predictability is not a bad thing, but neither is
the unpredictability of the single journey – Mandy Hale
Single women have it made (even if they don’t know it yet.) How?
They get to come into their own as women and live and love on their own terms. In this season of my life, I
overlooked the joys of being a bachelorette while weathering challenges of
loneliness and standing by watching many of my peers, family, and others opt
for a life of love, marriage, and baby carriages. But now it’s time to raise a
glass to the single life. Being a bachelorette has its perks! Bachelorette’s
have options like…
·
Having
their own living space and place all to themselves.
·
Shopping
for home décor and decorating their places as they see fit.
·
Traveling
whenever they want.
·
Spending
and saving their money as they’d like.
·
Spending
their time and energy as they’d like.
·
Dating
(and flirting) freely without commitment.
·
Being
able to invite new and different experiences into their lives at any time.
·
The
option to pack up and live in different cities without having to consult with a
partner.
·
The
option to take new jobs in different cities without having to consult with a
partner.
·
Being
able to spend as much time with their inner circle as they’d like.
·
Being
able to make plans without having to consult with someone (as opposed to being
in a relationship and having to consider a partner.)
·
Being
able to host girls’ nights in.
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Not
having to worry about cooking (or ordering takeout) for anyone but themselves.
·
And
the option to be fully focused on their individual hopes, goals, and dreams and
not waiting on anyone or anything before living their own fabulous lives J.
I wish more women who aren’t tied down
yet who struggle with singleness, could see how great they really have it. There
are times when it gets rough just dating, waiting, scrolling through the social
media world of engagement rings and proposals and wedding photos and attending
countless wedding events, baby showers, and more, and there’s nothing wrong
with wanting a significant other or a relationship or kids, but who says you
can’t have your own life in the meantime?