I recently had a dream I was
accepted into grad school. When I woke up I thought, well, that was weird. When I graduated from college with a
Bachelor’s degree in English I thought my education was complete. While working
through undergrad I felt something nudging at me about grad school, and thought,
it’s taken me almost eight years to
finish a Bachelor’s degree, why would I go to grad school? A number of my
peers were already planning to attend grad school after undergrad and I was
encouraged to do the same. The only thing was, I saw no need for a Master’s
degree. I perceived an additional degree as more of a decoration. Especially because at the time, I
wasn’t certain what I’d get a Master's in, along with people claiming a Master’s degree would be a good
look. One day, a respected colleague pulled me aside for a talk about this. She
asked, “Have you thought about grad school?” “Yes,” I replied. “But not right
now. I just graduated this past spring." She looked at me with a smile and said, “You can take a year off before you start. I
wouldn’t say this to you if I didn’t believe you could do it, but you should
consider doing your Master’s.” When she said that, it did something to me. It’s
amazing how someone who barely knows you can see your potential even when you
don’t sometimes. Still, I’m not completely convinced that a Master’s is
necessary for me. I’m blessed and incredibly grateful to have a college degree,
but I’m definitely not the type to boast and brag about it, or crave an
additional degree because it would look or sound good to others. I’ve met plenty of degree snobs that are
highly intelligent, but severely lacking in the area of common sense. You can
have as many degrees as you want, but if you’re not street smart, too, or pursuing a degree or additional degrees for the right reasons, you may
find yourself facing challenges your academics never prepared you for. I’ve
also met humble college graduates, who rarely, if ever, bring up the fact that
they have a degree or multiple degrees. Humble college graduates have an
understanding that a degree does not define who they are as a person, but is
merely a reflection of their hard work and intellectual capabilities. I’ve
found that many people who have a warped perception and level of arrogance
about having a college degree are often not as smart as they think, and
typically not liked by a lot of people. Because while being highly educated is
nice and can set you apart in positive ways, it’s important to remember that a degree
doesn’t make you better or more qualified than anyone else in this life,
especially if you’re a bragger and an arrogant, education snob. It’s scary that a lot of people don’t get
that. Not everyone has to go to college, or even grad school, but I believe
it’s great having those kinds of options and opportunities. After all, no one
can ever take your education away from you.
About a year ago, I had a dream my dad wanted to talk to our family about something serious. I wasn’t sure what he wanted to discuss, but I knew it was something I needed to prepare myself for. Around the time after I had this dream, I remember stopping by my parents place and sensing something was going on that they weren’t telling me. I tried to dismiss what I’d been feeling, but I couldn’t shake it. Something serious was happening. As I returned to my home after visiting them one day, I was in my kitchen washing dishes when a heaviness hit my heart like nothing I’d ever felt before. Something’s wrong with dad. That’s what that dream was about. God, what’s going on? As I continued washing dishes, I started crying and praying. Then in mid-spring, my dad held an unexpected family meeting that would change all our lives forever. He hesitated at first, and as his voice started cracking and he started crying, he said, “Well, I wanted to talk to ya’ll to tell you that I have kidney disea...