Girl meets guy. Girl likes guy
and guy likes her too. Girl screws things up (and has done so with almost every
likable suitor she’s met) by coming out the gate with walls up, waving her independent
“I can take care of myself” flag -- loud and proud, being passive instead of
communicating her wants and needs clearly, and being too prideful and too much
of a coward to let herself be open and vulnerable enough to allow herself to
fall in like/love with someone and vice versa, and know while there’s risk for
hurt, it’s okay to try again and again, until she meets someone who’s her
equal. Because when she least expects it, she could end up with the right
person at just the right time. Only first, she must acknowledge why she’s the
common denominator in being boyfriendless, decide to change her ways and
patterns that aren’t working, and understand that allowing a guy to be a guy
and do things for her and feel needed, won’t strip her of her wholeness or
cramp her style, and that while it’s great to be in a position where she can
handle herself, it’s important to master balance.
In fact, as she becomes less standoffish and stops letting her emotions or what her
family and friends may think is best for her cloud her decision making, she
could intentionally be making steps towards changing the game, which will
require getting uncomfortable, unlearning some deep rooted beliefs she once
held, and having a new approach to things. Will she finally snag the bae that
stays? We’ll see.
Ghosting: the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication. I’ve been ghosted by every guy I’ve met within the past two years. About six to be exact. · The first guy pursued me and then got shady whenever I asked him about what he did for a living and where he lived. When he started dodging and avoiding questions, wouldn’t initiate dates, and slowly stopped keeping in touch with me altogether, eventually, all communication ceased. · The second guy was someone I met through a family member. He was super cool, very smart, handsome, and funny, but didn’t want to be in a relationship and acted like he didn’t want to be seen with me publicly. When we had plans to meet for an outing, he didn’t show up, and then texted me about a week later with an apology. We chilled at my place a few times, had a few phone conversations, and exchanged occasional texts, but eventually he stopped responding to me