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The Miseducation of Miss Independent

Girl meets guy. Girl likes guy and guy likes her too. Girl screws things up (and has done so with almost every likable suitor she’s met) by coming out the gate with walls up, waving her independent “I can take care of myself” flag -- loud and proud, being passive instead of communicating her wants and needs clearly, and being too prideful and too much of a coward to let herself be open and vulnerable enough to allow herself to fall in like/love with someone and vice versa, and know while there’s risk for hurt, it’s okay to try again and again, until she meets someone who’s her equal. Because when she least expects it, she could end up with the right person at just the right time. Only first, she must acknowledge why she’s the common denominator in being boyfriendless, decide to change her ways and patterns that aren’t working, and understand that allowing a guy to be a guy and do things for her and feel needed, won’t strip her of her wholeness or cramp her style, and that while it’s great to be in a position where she can handle herself, it’s important to master balance. In fact, as she becomes less standoffish and stops letting her emotions or what her family and friends may think is best for her cloud her decision making, she could intentionally be making steps towards changing the game, which will require getting uncomfortable, unlearning some deep rooted beliefs she once held, and having a new approach to things. Will she finally snag the bae that stays? We’ll see.