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How to Find Your Life’s Purpose

When we are who we are called to be, we will set the world ablaze – St. Catherine of Siena
In my line of work I help guide people towards their purpose. I don’t necessarily tell them what they should be doing, but I help them dig deep about what it is that excites them, and prompt them figure out how to stay on a path that can guide them towards success.

When I was in undergrad I wrote a fictional short story about a college student attending a school called, Purpose College. My professor at the time really liked that I named the university Purpose. I did that intentionally, because I believe one of the biggest things a lot of people struggle with is trying to figure out what they’re supposed to be doing with their lives. Often, I find a lot of people spending time wandering or doing things they don’t enjoy or may even hate doing, while allowing things like being realistic or peer pressure or family or societal expectations sway their choices, while letting their dreams be shelved or even worse, buried.

Doing different things other people told me I should be doing vs. trusting God and my instincts, helped push me towards figuring out my own life’s purpose. And also inner feelings of innately knowing I’m meant for something more, while still figuring out all of what my purpose entails. I always knew I’d be a writer, but I also discovered I’m good at other things like, coaching, counseling, consulting, encouragement, and giving others hope. Those are just a handful of things that come natural to me, and it amazes me how some people miss what’s so obvious about themselves that they’d be great at doing, and would probably be more successful at vs. the line of work they’re already in. If you’re still trying to figure out what you’re supposed to be doing with your life, know this - the answer may be closer than you realize…
Just get still, pay attention and be open.  You’ll find the answers you’ve been looking for. 

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