The Devil Wears Khakis

Inevitably in life, you’ll eventually work with people you don’t like. It happens. Different personalities are bound to clash, however, if you intend to make the most of your time and be a non-irritated professional, being cordial is a must.

At work I’m really quiet, unless I’m consulting with someone. I’m also a great listener and observer, which means I tend to catch things that most people overlook or miss, because they’re not paying close attention. I notice who’s well liked and who’s not, who shares too much about their personal life and those who are more reserved, and I can easily identify who can be trusted and who can’t.

One of the best tips I got from a seasoned co-worker was: It’s best to just keep people on a need to know basis. And that was something I immediately grasped about a month on the job.

In any work setting the culture and people combined, help set the tone. Accessing the environment, culture (the rules), people (those who are liked or not well liked) and figuring out how you should approach challenging situations, while working with people you may not take a liking to or vice versa, will serve you well.

I often reflect on T.D. Jakes tips on how to carry one’s self in the workplace (see the list below.) I hope you find them as resourceful as I have. Be blessed.

1. Understand that God anoints you for trouble.
2. Don't expect to be appreciated.
3. Do your job well, but remember your mission.
4. Seek opportunities to change the atmosphere without commenting on the problems.
5. Don't let your environment get inside of you.
6. Increase your capacity to work with different personalities.
7. Remember where you are does not define where you are going.
8. Get the optimum results with minimal confusion.
9. Don't be associated with one group or clique.
10. Always keep your song near you.

Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work – 1 Thessalonians 4:11

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