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How to Glow Up

The process of glowing up takes time. A glow up will look significantly different for everyone, but I believe people can tell when one has indeed, “glowed up.”

Glowing up is the process in which one goes through a noticeable transformation where they look good, are doing good, and have bettered themselves. It happens to the best of us. I’ve seen people glow up and thought, man, when did that happen? As a former nerd, I’ve always had a soft spot for others that were capable of glowing up. I could empathize with them because I knew one day, I would improve, too. For example, growing up, the guys I liked never liked me back, and they thought it was funny to diss me in the process. I’ve never been one for revenge, but I maintain that you should be careful who you diss. The nerdy types glow up in ways you’d never think. And the same ones who diss, will be the same ones trying to get at you after you’ve glowed up. I’ve lived this and it’s funny, because looking back, I don’t know why I even liked some of those guys. A lot of them were clowns. Anyways, anyone seeking to glow up can do it. All it takes is three steps:

1) Reinvent Yourself – I used to wear glasses all the time. Every now and then I still wear them, but I was introduced to contact lenses as a high school freshman, and when switched up, it changed my look. I also started to play around with makeup and learned new and different ways to enhance my look. It’s amazing how some tiny tweaks can make improved changes. It’s good to experiment with your look every now and then, and figure out what works for you and what doesn’t.

2) Trade Up – I once heard it’s good to occasionally take inventory of the kind of people you have in your circle. Honestly, I’ve had a ton of crappy friends, and when I started to chill in places where I could connect with people that were either doing things I wanted to do, or doing better than me, I started to link up with them, learn from them, and get connected with people serious about doing meaningful things with and in their lives. You are who you hang out with. Could it be that some of your expired friendships are holding you back?

3) Accept Yourself – This is the most important of the three. Confidence will make people take notice of you. If you can accept yourself, others will start to, too. I used to have low self-esteem, and once I started the process of accepting myself, I noticed how things changed for the better.

Glowing up is not difficult. You have to take it on in a way that works for you. It’s amazing what a little reinventing, a new circle, and accepting yourself can do. Hope these tips help.



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