Validation is a dangerous trap.
It’s scary because it’s intoxicating and a lot of people are so deep into it,
they don’t even realize it. It use to really bother me when I wasn’t received
by people who either didn’t like me, or by people I thought would support and cheer me on during different seasons in
my life. I finally came to the conclusion that if you live for people’s
compliments, celebrations of you, or any other fleeting forms of validation,
you’ll die from their silence,
disapproval, or opinions. Maybe not a quick death, but a slowly drawn out one,
that’ll begin the moment people don’t cater or coddle your desire to be liked,
loved, or accepted.
Trust me.
Also, social media “likes” (or
lack thereof) and the other button options available to choose from, don’t mean
anything. Not anything serious, anyway. It’s important not to let these things
go to your head, and especially not your heart. It’s easy to get caught up, so
I encourage people to be careful and often remind myself to do the same. Who
doesn’t enjoy those moments when someone likes or utilizes that heart shaped love button on their posts or awesome
pictures? It’s not odd, but it’s good to keep perspective. If I post a great
picture of myself and know it’s great, I could care less who doesn’t like or
love it because all that matters is what I
think of what I’m posting. I think a lot of people don’t realize how much
power they’re giving away when they let other people validate them, and get a
feel good high from it. It’s kind of ridiculous. I’ve even heard people say and
share things like, this or that person
doesn’t ever like my posts or photos. Who cares? You can always like your
own posts and photos. Want to know something else? A lot of people are on
social media looking at what other people are doing, or have going on, without
really knowing what someone’s real
life is like behind closed doors. It’s a smokescreen thing. Try not to fall into
the trap. If no one else ever tells you, I’ll be the one to let you know
through this post, I think you’re awesome.