In October 2014 I made the
decision to go natural. This wasn’t an easy choice but it had to be done. I’d
been getting relaxers in my hair since I was seven, and the damage finally
caught up to me when my hair started breaking off. For years, I had friends trying
to get me to go natural but the thought of not having my hair relaxed and
straightened was non-negotiable. I also thought I’d have to do the BC (big chop),
which is a process where one has all of their damaged hair cut off all the way down
to its most natural state. And I definitely wasn’t comfortable doing that.
I did finally quit the relaxers but
tried to be slick by still getting my hair pressed straight, acting as if heat
damage wasn’t that big of a deal. Prior to my hair falling out and being
damaged, I’d spend hours and lots of money every month going to the beauty
shop. I was getting to the point where I was tired of spending so much money,
not to mention sitting through lengthy and mostly late appointments, when I
decided, enough was enough. The final straw was when I literally waited over an
hour for my stylist at the time to do my hair, after I’d already scheduled an
appointment the week prior to seeing her. When I explained my desire to go
natural, she didn’t seem thrilled. I also told her that my hair was falling
out. I found out later that when most women go natural, they usually stop going
to the salon. I suppose she was upset because she probably knew I’d eventually
stop coming, but my health and hair were at risk.
Once I stopped going I did save money,
but I wasn’t ready for the world of testing different natural hair products,
trying new hairstyles I could maintain, and figuring out what to do. I’ve
always had help or a professional stylist do my hair, so, things got complicated. After a ton of mishaps,
twists, turns, and a trip to a new stylist in the fall of 2016 who cut off a
lot of my hair (more that I was mentally prepared for) I stopped using heat all
together and have been working towards being patient until the beautiful curl
pattern I was naturally born with, reemerges. I’ve even experimented with braids,
which is something I never thought I’d do again (I had them before as a kid) and
I love having them now. They’ve
changed my look and have made things easier as I’ve gone through transitioning.
Natural hair is beautiful. It does
take a lot of upkeep, but it’s better than damaging it with chemicals that ruin
it. When I see old photos of myself with my straightened hair, I don’t look too
happy. My hair was always straightened and in my face, so now that it’s
natural, it’s often pulled back and I feel more beautiful than ever. Going
natural was worth it.