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Alpha Female

When I think about an alpha female the following words come to mind: Strong, independent, confident, bold, and courageous. These days, many women may find themselves in the alpha female category. I can resonate with being this kind of woman, because, I am one. I know a number of other women who are as well. Now more than ever, being an alpha female is something that is celebrated thanks to more and more women shattering glass ceilings, and taking on more non-traditional routes and roles in life. Because of this, I believe there are often misconceptions about being this kind of woman that I want to clear up. Keep in mind, this is only from my experience and perspective, but if this helps other women in similar situations, I’m glad to speak up.

As an alpha female, I’m not some career obsessed, I don’t want/need a man in my life, and having a baby will ruin my life and plans, person. I’m definitely not that person. Healthy relationships seem great, and kids are cool too (especially when you can send them back home with their parents) However, I’m in no rush to settle down or have kids. Why rush things? I’m on no one else’s timeline. For now, I’m excited to have a life of my own and enjoy it to the fullest. And I see nothing wrong with that.







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