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Urgency

At the March on Washington Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. mentioned the “fierce urgency of now” in regards to our divided nation moving forward together, to make things better. While there’s been some progress, there’s still lots of work that needs to be done. The concept of the “fierce urgency of now” is something that occupies my mind often. When I wake up, I’m already in an urgent state of mind. I believe that time is valuable and precious, and shouldn’t be wasted, which is why I can’t understand why some people waste time. I hate wasting time and I certainly don’t enjoy having my time wasted, which is why one of my biggest pet peeves is lateness. I understand that things happen, and I can even understand running five minutes behind, but if someone continually makes lateness a habit, I get annoyed; especially if we’ve made plans in advance. I’ve been late before, but I’m a prompt person – most, if not all of the time. I also recognize that time stops for no one. This is why I’m urgent about pursuing opportunities, chasing my dreams, following up with people who’ve contacted me, and making moves. Everything I want is forward, and I know if I’m going to grab hold of what I want, it’s going to require me to be urgent and ready to go, or else the opportunities and especially the time, will pass me by. I believe that’s the fierce urgency of now. Someday, one day, or waiting until you feel like doing things, or taking care of something, may cost you opportunities you might not get, if you’re being slothful. Be productive, take breaks when you need to, and then get going. What are you going to do with the time you have left? 

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