I believe the thought, “I should’ve waited…” crosses
people’s minds all the time. I’ve sat with this thought myself, when I think
about different things I wish I would’ve approached differently, knowing what I
know now. I’ve discovered how unwise it is to make decisions based off
emotions, off of what your family and friends are doing, or rather appear to be doing, and have seen how
detrimental not waiting has been in
the lives of different people I know. It’s a constant reminder to me, of the importance
in doing things God’s way, and the wonderful gift of delayed gratification.
Delayed gratification is defined as resisting a temptation for a smaller and
immediate award, while enduring and holding out for a bigger and better reward.
Basically, short term sacrifices for a long term benefit kind of thing. I believe
that delayed gratification is a sign of maturity. A sign of immaturity is
wanting what you want right away, without thinking of the bigger picture, and
as unwise as it is to handle things this way, I see it happen all the time and
I’m not into it, and will have no parts of it. I believe waiting, and doing
things God’s way will always outweigh what you may perceive everyone else is doing. I’ll issue this warning though:
doing things His way will likely come with criticism, occasional loneliness, and
people thinking you’re trippin’ lol – this often happens to those that deviate
from the path that seems socially normal, or looks like what everyone else is
doing, but I know and have experienced that living within God’s will, and doing
things His way, is the safest place to be. Romans 14:8 reads, “For whether we
live, we live unto the Lord; and whether we die, we die unto the Lord: whether
we love therefore, or die, we are the Lord’s.” If I live and die for Him, what
other people say or think is ultimately, meaningless. Delaying gratification
and doing things God’s way will pay off, and I know from personal experiences,
God rewards obedience and a willingness to approach things, His way. Delayed gratification
is the new cool. Try it out.
Ghosting: the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication. I’ve been ghosted by every guy I’ve met within the past two years. About six to be exact. · The first guy pursued me and then got shady whenever I asked him about what he did for a living and where he lived. When he started dodging and avoiding questions, wouldn’t initiate dates, and slowly stopped keeping in touch with me altogether, eventually, all communication ceased. · The second guy was someone I met through a family member. He was super cool, very smart, handsome, and funny, but didn’t want to be in a relationship and acted like he didn’t want to be seen with me publicly. When we had plans to meet for an outing, he didn’t show up, and then texted me about a week later with an apology. We chilled at my place a few times, had a few phone conversations, and exchanged occasional texts, but eventually he stopped responding to me