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Choosing Between Ambition or Love

In the July issue of Cosmopolitan magazine I came across an article titled: Ambition or Love: Do You Have to Choose? I was alarmed at some of my findings, as well as some of the harsh realities of being an ambitious woman. There are many men that claim they like dating a woman in charge, until they actually do. Jenna Birch writes, “The Fallout: some women are downplaying their career goals to bag a bae. Not okay!” As I read through the article I was floored. I found some of the stories that different ambitious women shared to be funny and insightful, yet a bit discouraging. There are women working hard to have careers of their own, many of whom are intelligent, beautiful, driven, and making serious bank but desiring, love. That’s understandable, but turning down ambitions to snag and/or keep a guy is awful. I like to believe that it’s possible to obtain both ambition and love, but it depends on the situation. I believe there are men that can celebrate women who are incredibly successful and some who can’t handle it. Some of the guys that commented on the article shared that they like smart, beautiful, and successful women, but find them intimidating, which translates to me as a guy simply being, insecure. I’m just beginning to ease into the career world, and I’ve seen this. I believe society has evolved past what it means to be a traditional woman, even though some men and women still seem to be stuck in the 50’s. It’s time to get woke. The reality that some men may face, is that they may end up with a woman that makes more money than them, is in a higher position, and unapologetic about it. I feel like a real man would support that, and not let his ego be bruised by it. If I had to choose between ambition or love, I’d take ambition. Naturally, I’m filled with love but love doesn’t pay the way a stable career does. I like stability and it’s important for me to have a life of my own, and to flourish to the fullest of my potential. I can’t see myself giving that up for a guy, and why should I? I think the bigger question beyond choosing between ambition or love, is can you be with someone and have both? It’s good food for thought. 

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