How Are You Doing Right Now?

The current state of this world often feels uneasy.

The political climate, hatred, violence, constant tension, natural disasters, and uncertainty have been the source of much anxiety, stress, and sadness in ways many of us didn’t anticipate while approaching this year. I’m not someone who typically struggles with anxiety, but at different points this year, I’ve found myself more triggered than usual by some decisions being made at different leadership levels, devastating changes, and unexpected hiccups and losses that have caused more disruption and discord than ever before.

If I’ve been feeling this way, I wonder how others are navigating things too. How are you doing right now? Are you okay? If not, it’s okay. A lot is going on that’s prompted more questions than answers, and I would encourage you to sit with how you’re feeling and do regular check-ins with yourself. There’s no harm in confiding in a trusted family member or friend, seeking professional help, picking up some self-help resources, or connecting with God in a way that works best for you.

One of the things I’ve told myself and others this year is that when you have a moment to experience happiness, take it. Really immerse yourself in it and sit with what’s bringing you joy, because as long as we’re living, and even after we’ve transitioned from this life, life will continue to life. It doesn’t stop because changes happen that we don’t like, or when storms come we don’t want to move through, or when our money is up or down, or when we lose someone we love, or when anything unexpected occurs.

We’ve got to keep moving.

If you’re not okay, don’t move through things alone. Keep going and stay the course.

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