Making Waves

The definition of discretion is the quality of behaving or speaking in such a way as to avoid causing offense or revealing private information. I love being discreet. And I enjoy moving discreetly too. I believe it’s a powerful tool to put into practice. However, we live in a world that often supports and sometimes promotes revealing too much. I’ve noticed a troubling trend of people who seem to lack discretion about themselves and different areas of their lives. Some people are out here doing the most; they’re seeking attention, making announcements about their next big moves, going public with things that should be private, and wasting valuable time getting into other people’s business.   A while back, one of my coworkers told me, “You’re like a really private person.” In my mind, I thought,  Good. I’m glad she can see that.  Because when I was able to closely discern the kind of environment I was working in and the different people I worked with, I learn...

Meghan Markle and Prince Harry are an interesting couple. One, they look adorable together. Two, they make a great power couple. And three, they’ve managed to change the image of the royal family with the fact that they’re an interracial couple. They are a true representation of what the world now looks like as opposed to how the royal family has always looked from its beginning. When these two were dating, there was a lot of press coverage brewing, but when they announced their engagement and wedding? Things skyrocketed to an entirely different level.   If you didn’t get a chance to see the wedding or the photos from it, you missed something special. It was clear that these two were (and still are) very much in love. However, one couple’s happiness can sometimes be an issue for those who are unhappy with themselves and maybe their own lives. Which  Finding Freedom  dives into. It specifically highlights not only Meghan and Harry’s love story but also describes all of the...

When the topic of Christian couples living together before marriage came up on   The Godly Dating 101 Podcast , I was blown away. The conversation on the topic was very forward, insightful, and timely. And while I know this is a topic that can be uncomfortable to discuss, here’s the thing. I’m not here to judge anyone. I have unmarried non-Christian family members and friends who’ve lived (or are currently living) with their significant others. And I have unmarried Christian family members and friends who’ve lived (or are currently living) with their significant others too. To each their own. However, as for me and my house? The answer will always be   hell no   to living together before marriage. Even if there’s been a stunning proposal, a beautiful ring placed on my finger, and a standing engagement, the answer will still be   no .     I refuse to be a live-in girlfriend or fiancée. I’m also not going to date someone and wait several years for a proposal ...

Around this time last year, I struggled with my mental health and my relationship with the Lord. I can remember waking up and dreading starting most of my days. I was crying and praying a lot, and wrestling with some unbelief, anxiousness, and worry concerning my life, my career, and the future. I was also disappointed and frustrated with how things seemed to be going for me too.   I was working from home in a very stressful job I’d been trying to leave for over a year. One of the biggest reasons why I was planning my exit was because I was frequently harassed by one of my male co-workers at that same job. And the harassment continued as I worked from home. The things that were happening weren’t okay, and I wasn’t okay either. What was especially unsettling about that experience was how isolating it was and discovering how wicked and heartless some people can be. I even had the receipts to prove what was going on, and nothing was done about any of it. Several other colleagues and I...

The thought of looking for a new career opportunity during a pandemic, especially if you’re currently employed and have remained employed since the pandemic happened, may sound crazy. But for some people, myself included, it’s been worth the risk. I was previously employed with a company I’d been seeking to move forward from a little over a year before the pandemic happened. When the world paused, I transitioned into being a remote worker, and things at work grew increasingly stressful and demanding. I’d even paused on my career search because, at the time, I wasn’t sure how one could interview and land a new opportunity since many people were being laid off and trying to figure out what to do next. Although I was discontented, I was advised not to make any sudden changes with all the uncertainty happening in the world. However, I couldn’t sit with my discontent anymore. So I decided to do what I could until things changed. And they did. Here’s how.   Revise your résumé.  One ...