I wouldn’t want to know or hear the thoughts of men all the time. I imagine it’d be a disturbing and unsettling thing. And it’s exactly what happened to Taraji P. Henson in the movie, What Men Want. I was impressed with her performance and comedic range portraying a strong female character named Ali, who happened to be in a heavily male-dominated work environment. When she was overlooked for a recent promotion at the company she worked at, she was upset and had every reason to be. She was smart, highly qualified, and equally if not more, hardworking than her male colleagues. Although this movie was a comedy, this kind of stuff happens in different workplaces all the time. Throughout the film a handful of people told Ali she didn’t connect well with men, so during a night out with her girlfriends, she met a psychic who gave her tea that allowed her to hear the thoughts of men. I’ve had the opportunity to work with a lot of men, and once, during an unfiltered moment, I overheard a group of guys discussing what they thought about the women in their lives. I couldn’t believe some of what I heard. As a woman, it was both enlightening and shocking to hear what guys say about women when they don’t think one of us is nearby. What Men Want was smart, funny, and entertaining. Check it out. Do something fun this weekend and enjoy yourself. TGIF!
As you embark on your career, I want you to know some things and stay woke about what you’ll be up against. Please understand that no matter what, you have value, and you matter. Always remember that. As progressive as this world and different workplaces may seem, every workplace has a culture. You’ll be in different places where a lot of people who don’t look like you will be in the room. But know that you belong in those rooms too. Spend some time observing and studying those spaces and learn as much as you can. There will be people you work with who will make presumptions about your competence, education, and ability to fulfill your job duties. There will be more who will think less of you because of the color of your skin and try to disqualify you the moment you make an error, mistake, or ask questions about things you may not understand. This will all feel uncomfortable and you may get insecure, feel like you’re all by yourself, and think you don’t belong there, but ride it out...