About Being Irreplaceable

Be irreplaceable. You have the power to do so. One day I got to thinking about ways I’ve been able to implement doing so in my own life, and I came to some realizations. One, no one can ever be as you as you can be. You’re an original design, and that’s amazing when you think about it. There’ll never be another you that passes through this world again. Two, because of who you are, you have the chance to bring your personal and unique skills, gifts, and talents to the world. Once you get a grip on those things and figure out where they fit, you’re on your way to discovering new and incredible opportunities. And finally, have a great work ethic. One of my core values is perseverance. Persevering in the midst of challenges and developing a strong work ethic are things that can help you stand out in the best kinds of ways. Others will take notice of this too. How does one become irreplaceable? Keep reading…

Be Yourself– Remember, there’ll never be another you that walks this earth. Do you know how rare and valuable you are? Growing up, I struggled being myself. I constantly had people around me wanting me to be who they wanted or needed me to be instead of encouraging me to be myself. To this day, I find it insulting any time someone insists I be someone other than myself. I like/love who I am. And you should like/love yourself too. To be anything inauthentic or a second-rate version of someone else, and not be the best expression of who you are would be devastating.

Use What You’ve Got– It amazes me how some of the most creative, talented, and innovative people I know waste away their gifts by not using them. You’re a lot more amazing than you realize and if you use what you’ve got, whether it be your charm, attractive looks, unique voice, sense of humor, or anything else that sets you apart from what others have already seen in another shape or form, then you help make yourself a little more irreplaceable.

Have a Great Work Ethic– I don’t know many people who’ve gotten far from laziness. I grind hard and work tenaciously for everything I have and want. The most successful people I know are usually productive, working hard, setting and accomplishing goals, managing their time well, and prioritizing. If you work hard and manage to be one of the hardest working people in the room, whether it’s in your professional or personal life, you’ll be amazed at the opportunities, promotions, and rewards you’ll reap because of the hard work you put in. Always strive to do your best.

The Day I Became A Kidney Donor

About a year ago, I had a dream my dad wanted to talk to our family about something serious. I wasn’t sure what he wanted to discuss, but I knew it was something I needed to prepare myself for. Around the time after I had this dream, I remember stopping by my parents place and sensing something was going on that they weren’t telling me. I tried to dismiss what I’d been feeling, but I couldn’t shake it. Something serious was happening. As I returned to my home after visiting them one day, I was in my kitchen washing dishes when a heaviness hit my heart like nothing I’d ever felt before. Something’s wrong with dad. That’s what that dream was about. God, what’s going on? As I continued washing dishes, I started crying and praying. Then in mid-spring, my dad held an unexpected family meeting that would change all our lives forever. He hesitated at first, and as his voice started cracking and he started crying, he said, “Well, I wanted to talk to ya’ll to tell you that I have kidney disea...

I’m Glad I’m Not Married

When I was about five years old, I was sitting in the backseat of my dad’s car when me, him, my older cousin (my aunt’s son), and my aunt (my dad’s sister) caught my aunt’s fiancé with another woman. My dad had been driving my aunt out to run some errands since she didn’t have a driver’s license or a car. When she spotted her man with another woman, she told my dad to pull the car over, got out of the car, and immediately addressed him. She wanted the keys back to her apartment and was done with him. The other woman she caught her fiancé with slapped him when she realized what was happening, and that was that. When my aunt returned to the car, she was clearly and understandably upset, and the ride back to her place was quiet. Although I was too young to fully grasp what was happening at the time, I knew it wasn’t good. And now, at 34 years old, I can’t imagine how much pain she was in. Her wedding had been planned and paid for – and she never made it down the aisle. My aunt was a beaut...

Dear Young Black Professionals

As you embark on your career, I want you to know some things and stay woke about what you’ll be up against. Please understand that no matter what, you have value, and you matter. Always remember that. As progressive as this world and different workplaces may seem, every workplace has a culture. You’ll be in different places where a lot of people who don’t look like you will be in the room. But know that you belong in those rooms too. Spend some time observing and studying those spaces and learn as much as you can. There will be people you work with who will make presumptions about your competence, education, and ability to fulfill your job duties. There will be more who will think less of you because of the color of your skin and try to disqualify you the moment you make an error, mistake, or ask questions about things you may not understand. This will all feel uncomfortable and you may get insecure, feel like you’re all by yourself, and think you don’t belong there, but ride it out...

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