Making Waves

I’ve crossed paths with a ton of degree snobs. They’re the kind of people who go on and on about the multiple college degrees they hold. And while they might  think  this makes them seem smart, they often rub others the wrong way and can seem obnoxious, condescending, and at times be dense as hell (particularly in the area of common sense) once you really get to know them. These types insult others, brag about what they have and what they’ve studied, and openly share why they’re so much smarter than everyone else. Which is silly behavior, I know, but there really are people out here living like that. Another thing I’ve noticed with these types is that many of them aren’t even actively seeking opportunities or working or volunteering in the fields they went to school for. They’re just announcing and telling everyone about their degrees and doing nothing with them. Weird. My thing is if you’re going to spend thousands of dollars on your education and go into debt for it, put ...

For three years, I’ve worked for a Christian organization.   In the beginning, it was a blessing having an opportunity to serve in a role where I was able to help and encourage others and gain a wealth of knowledge and experiences I never had before. But as I moved through my position, I noticed some troubling things that didn’t sit well with me. Pre-pandemic, I was already wrestling with a steady discontentment I couldn’t shake. Along with constant stress, frustration, and uneasiness while enduring and moving through a hostile climate and space of rigidity. Another colleague told me, “It’s only going to get worse.”  My first year, I was almost fired. I’d made a mistake during new employee training. And after locking horns with the trainer when he talked down to me, I was reported and sat down in a meeting with two managers who suggested I pray about whether or not I needed to proceed with the organization. It was clear there was no room for much grace or error...

Birds of Prey  is a work of art.  I mean, what’s cooler than an unlikely group of dope women working together to defeat a common enemy? Especially when led by the likes of an unforgettable and perhaps sometimes underappreciated character like Harley Quinn (Margot Robbie). Harley is also accompanied by a strong and determined squad that includes Renee Montoya (Rosie Perez), Black Canary (Jurnee Smollett-Bell), and Huntress (Mary Elizabeth Winstead). Collectively, these women team up to take out a villain in Gotham, Black Mask (Ewan McGregor), and many others throughout the film. Though an odd figure, it’s hard to ignore how heroic Harley is. And her backstory is even more intriguing. In  Birds of Prey,  it’s learned that she went to college and earned her Ph.D., became a psychiatrist, fell in love with the Joker, went on to pursue a life of crime and chaos, and when her relationship with the Joker ended, you could see her heartbreak and her humanity. She cr...

I’ll be deactivating my social media account soon.  I’m not sure when I’ll return to it, but after taking a few breaks away from it this summer, doing some extensive reading and research about its impact on our data and everyday lives, consuming way too much negativity, whining, complaining, and oversharing throughout my newsfeed, and questioning my own contributions, motives, and behavior when using this powerful tool, I believe it’s a good time to step away from it for a while. And if you’re reading this, whether you’re a bachelorette or not, and this is something you’ve been thinking about doing too? I say go for it. It might do you some good.  My first experience with social media was with a platform called Myspace. I was in high school and looking back, I had no business being up there in the first place. I thank God smartphones weren’t a thing yet. Most of us former teens could only access this platform from a desktop computer or a laptop. At the time, I was a...

I went to college to get my degree, not to find a husband. During my freshman year, I was surprised to learn that many of my female peers were borderline obsessed with the idea of getting married.  You go to college to get an education, land a good job, get into your dream career, and hopefully be in a position where you’re able to support and take care of yourself, right?  At least that’s what I thought going to school was all about. After declining an invitation to try on wedding dresses for  fun  one weekend, word got out that I was never getting married. More specifically, that I didn’t want to. To be clear, I never said that. I just didn’t want to go. I thought trying on wedding dressings for “fun” was odd. While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to get married, I believe it’s important to know that marriage isn’t everything and it’s not for everyone. If you don’t believe me, I highly recommend talking to some seasoned married couples who will tell you the trut...