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Be Merry

The holidays can be a wonderful time. There are decorations, great food, cool music and plenty of cheer to go around (and eggnog, too – tastes sooo good!) But there’s another side to the holidays that can be not so cheerful.

I’ve met and spoke with a number of people who are going through some heavy things this time of year, and honestly, not feeling as joyful. A number of people are dealing with things like financial crises, depression, loss, illness, and many other challenging situations weighing on their spirits.

One of my core values is - positivity. While there are times when I don’t necessarily feel like being positive, I try to make an effort to be as consistent as possible with it. A positive spirit and attitude can shift your perspective even in the midst of the crappiest of situations. If you’re feeling down, I want you to be encouraged and be merry. It’s a great time of year and worthy of celebration. Spread cheer, love and as much positivity as you can. Unless you have a better idea. 
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