The moment he referred to me as a
cougar I was done. Not to mention his inconsistency and ultimate ghosting, all
of which made me approach my openness to dating younger guys, something to
approach with caution.
Whenever I’ve encountered a younger
guy that’s shown interest in me, one of the following usually happens…
He’ll make a move.
Send one of his goofy friends
over to make the move for him.
Or admire me from afar and do
nothing.
I often get approached by guys
younger than me because I look younger than my actual age. My melanin game is
too strong, thank you very much. However, I’m a grown woman. I was always one
of those women that said I’d never go
for a guy younger than me, until I thought, maybe
I should be more open. My rule was 21 and up. If the guy was 21 or older, I’d
give him a chance.
When I was 24 I was approached by
a cute guy one day. He made the first move and when I asked him how old he was,
he said, “I’ll be 21 tomorrow.” He really wanted my number and seemed
harmless, so I gave it to him. There wasn’t a huge age gap so I thought, why not? We texted, talked on the phone,
and eventually he sent me a social media friend request. Because, you know,
that’s what some guys do these days. Look you up and send you a friend request.
Sure enough, I quickly learned how he’d soon remind me of his actual age. I decided to do a bit of
snooping, so I checked out his social media. The first status I saw read, as long as these cougars love me. I just
knew he was talking about me and I
confronted him about it. He thought it was really funny and then it hit me, this is exactly something someone his age
would do. I later found out that he wasn’t turning 21 the next day as he’d
originally told me. His birthday ended up being months later. The thing is, I
would’ve given him my number anyway, but the fact that he was dishonest from
the start should have been a warning sign. He should have just told the truth.
We talked and things were very brief. Because he was younger, I suppose this
was to be expected.
This year I met another guy who
was younger and to my surprise, relatively cool. On sight, I thought he was
cute, quiet and a bit shy. He was also smart and totally adorable. I also
noticed that we strangely shared a number of things in common that grew my
interest in him even more. I was like, this
guy is cool, I should just talk to him. So I did. He actually made me
nervous because he embodied much of what I typically look for in a guy I’m
interested in. The only downfall was he
was younger than me. I found our age gap bothersome. I also started noticing different things that were becoming apparent that we probably wouldn’t be a
great idea. After consulting with some of my close confidants, we all agreed it
probably wasn’t a good idea to explore anything further. So, I dismissed the
idea of anything happening all together.
I don’t discriminate but when it
comes to the older women dating younger men thing, I believe it’s definitely an
acquired taste. My concerns with this set up have always circled around two
things:
The fact that there’ll always
come a point where the younger guy will remind you of his actual age. The
immaturity will be inevitable and can cause issues.
And…
The bragging. I’ve heard that
many younger guys like the idea of being with a woman that’s older than them so
they have something to brag to their friends about. That’s not cool, either.
Some people don’t make a big deal
out of the age thing but every situation is different. To each their own.