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Bachelorette Guide To Building Confidence

To me, nothing screams confidence like a group of beautiful women of different races, shapes, sizes, and faces, posing happily and confidently in their underwear.

That’s a world I don’t mind being a part of at all.

The word for today is confidence.

It’s important to have it and it’s important to build it. Without it, life can be challenging, hell, life can be challenging with it too. Some women may worry that if they're too confident they could come off as arrogant (which is not true) and some may worry that they’re doing too much (which also isn’t true).

You will always come off as “too much” or “arrogant” to people who probably don’t have much confidence in themselves. Especially those who feel the need to criticize you about yours. Regardless, you should be taking steps to continue building your confidence and to feel good about being you.

I think you’re amazing, just in case you didn’t know that already 😊 and I’m happy to see other women being as confident as can be. To continue building your confidence…

Make Self-Care A Priority. I treat myself to face masks, massages, my favorite lattes, and more. Self-care is different for everyone, but the point is to be sure you’re taking care of yourself. When you feel good, it does wonders for your confidence. I know having clean and glowing skin, making sure my body is being treated well with good rest and massages, and partaking in warm beverages of my choice are just a handful of things that make me feel good. What are some things you could do for yourself that would make you feel and look good too?

Up Your Wardrobe Game. I’m no retail therapy addict or anything (I honestly shop sales and clearance racks as much as I can) but I know the value of a dress that makes me feel like I could slay a runway or any other outfit that makes me look and feel amazing. When you have the means, up your wardrobe game. Pick up some stylish pieces every now and then, and slay girl, slay. When you look good, you feel good, and your confidence will soar to some new heights. Also, treat yourself to some new bras and panties too – you will feel incredible knowing what’s underneath. 

Be Kind To Yourself. This is probably the most important of the three: being kind to yourself. I’ve had moments when my weight wasn’t where I wanted it to be, or I felt I was heavier when I wanted to be slimmer, or when I thought my skin didn’t look its best, and more, but now, I’m learning to practice being kind to myself. Instead of pointing out things I don’t like, I celebrate what I do. I speak to myself in a way I’d want someone encouraging to speak to me. And you should do the same for yourself too. Being confident is something that takes practice and intentionality, and the more you do it, the better it gets. So get to it, beautiful. 

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