Prepare For Where You’re Going

Prepare for where you’re going, not for where you’re at.

One of my dad’s one-sentence reminders ran through my mind this past week, and I started reflecting and thinking deeply about different things I want and plan to do with my own life.

I started thinking about what preparation would look like.

And then I started writing.

How would a successful ___________________

Think?
Act?

Build?
Strategize?

Write?

Brand?

Behave on social media?

Dress and carry themselves?

Speak?

Spend their time/money/resources?

Help others?

Treat others?

Talk to themselves?

Use their power?

Maximize their opportunities?

Leverage their influence?

Respond to conflict?

Respond to criticism?

Network?

Get ready.

Prepare for where you’re going, not for where you’re at.

Start moving, behaving, and thinking like the person you want to be for where you’re trying to go and just see what happens.

I’ve already been putting this into practice and I’m not sure where it’ll take me, but I’m eager to see what’s on the other side.

Something tells me it’s worth exploring.

Will you dare to take flight?

Dear Young Black Professionals

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Making Waves