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How to Deal with Racism

Dealing with racism isn’t foreign to most minorities. Due to ignorance and the current political climate, racism is something that’s no longer non-existent. Of course, many people of color knew it never ended in the first place. But knowing how to deal with racism can help ease the blows, if one ever finds themselves facing it.

I’ve experienced racism since I was kid. And all throughout high school, college and even in the workplace, too. Every situation’s been different. Some situations were subtle and some were not-so subtle. I’ve endured race jokes and being called a nigger. I watched non-minorities misappropriate other cultures as a joke, or as an effort to try to be cool. I’ve also endured comments about my “natural hair”, in addition to comments or suggestions that I couldn’t afford something or have certain things because I’m black. And on one occasion in college, I was told my writing would do great in an urban market as opposed to doing well in others. 

I’ve also been ignored and overlooked plenty of times when it came time for promotions or opportunities I knew I was qualified for, if not more qualified than the person who was granted the chance instead. Not to mention the handfuls of times in workplace settings where I was mishandled and treated in a condescending manner and feared speaking up to avoid the angry black woman stereotype. I’m not entitled, but I’ve spoken to other minorities who’ve shared similar experiences with this. Crazy as it seems, racism is something I, as well as others have had to deal with. The silver lining has been being able to grow a thick skin. If someone has an issue with someone because of their skin color, then obviously the person with the issue needs some mental help. The world we all live in prompts me to address this issue. Here are some tips on dealing with racism:

1) Stay calm. As pissed or offended or hurt as you may feel, do not react immediately. Don’t clap back right away. Try to stay calm and understand you’re dealing with someone who has a distorted and out of touch way of thinking.

2) Don’t try to explain yourself. If you’re from a different race or background and someone has an issue with you because of those things, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. You are who you are. Embrace being you.

3) If there’s a race issue in the workplace go to HR and be sure you’re documenting. If there are issues on a college campus, go to the dean, or take things a step further and try to get in touch with the NAACP. No one should ever have to tolerate racism while trying to work and/or get through school. Also, if you witness racism, get involved. If there’s no danger, don’t just be a bystander and say or do nothing. If other races speak up about discrimination and racism it helps eliminates one less incident that would otherwise occur if someone didn’t speak up.

Be informed. Stay woke.






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